The Resource When our grown kids disappoint us : letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives, Jane Adams

When our grown kids disappoint us : letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives, Jane Adams

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When our grown kids disappoint us : letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives
Title
When our grown kids disappoint us
Title remainder
letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives
Statement of responsibility
Jane Adams
Creator
Subject
Language
eng
Summary
Offers advice on how to stop taking on the responsibility of caring for and fixing a grown child's problems while addressing feelings of guilt and frustration
Cataloging source
DLC
http://library.link/vocab/creatorDate
1940-
http://library.link/vocab/creatorName
Adams, Jane
Dewey number
306.874
Index
index present
LC call number
HQ755.86
LC item number
.A33 2003
Literary form
non fiction
Nature of contents
bibliography
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  • Parent and adult child
  • Adult children
  • Adult children
  • Parent and adult child
Label
When our grown kids disappoint us : letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives, Jane Adams
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Publication
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (pages 199-200) and index
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volume
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  • nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
  • txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
May I Talk to You Privately? -- Whose Story Is This? -- When Bad Things Happen to Good Parents -- Our Dirty Little Secret -- The Elephant in the Parlor -- The Kids Are All Right and Other Lies Parents Tell About Their Grown Children -- The Most Privileged Generation in History--Except Theirs -- Great Expectations: Ours or Theirs -- Who's in Trouble Here? -- Making Them Happy Is Not Up to Us -- But Can We Be Happy If They're Not? -- We're Waiting ... and Waiting ... and Waiting -- When We Were Their Age -- Prolonging the Search for Identity--Or Just Avoiding It? -- Excuse Us, But We're Having an Identity Crisis, Too -- Our Other Unfinished Task -- Two Kinds of Parents, Same Kind of Kids -- In Whose Good Time? -- Addicted, Depressed, and Dependent: A Detour or a Final Destination? -- Whose Fault Is It, Anyway? -- The Two Myths of Parenthood -- "I'll Never Make the Mistakes My Parents Made" -- Wrestling Guilt to the Ground -- The Echo of Our Childhoods -- Regret Is Guilt Without the Neurosis -- Why Wasn't I Listening? -- When the Writing's on the Wall -- Good Enough Is the Best We Can Do -- They're Ba-a-a-ck! -- The Never-Empty Nest -- Out of Time and Out of Patience -- Sparing the Help vs. Spoiling the Child -- Lives Without Guideposts -- Leaving No Forwarding Address -- The Challenge of Independence -- Strangled by Our Purse Strings -- "Why Should They Wait Till We're Dead?" -- Codependent on Dr. Spock -- Parents Who Give Too Much -- Maybe We Shouldn't Have Inhaled -- The Perils of Nostalgia -- It's Not the Age of Aquarius Any Longer -- Is It a Symptom or a Disease? -- Family Day at Rehab -- Staying Out of Their Program -- Doing the Wrong Thing -- The Limits of Love -- Paying a Different Kind of Attention -- Denying the Undeniable -- The Real Truth About Gay Pride -- Following the Pied Piper -- An Alternative to What? -- Who Are the Victims Here? -- Forgiving the Unforgivable -- Separating from Their Problems Without Separating from Them -- The Key to Our Survival -- Thank You for Sharing -- Marriages Under Fire -- Blurred Boundaries, Loving Limits -- But What About the Grandchildren? -- Phantom Guilt and Other Crimes of the Heart -- Reinventing Our Lives: The Challenge of Postparenthood -- Reinvigorating the Postparenthood Marriage -- New Wine in Old Bottles -- Different Times, Different Agendas -- Shuffling the Deck for a New Deal
Dimensions
23 cm
Extent
xiv, 206 pages
Isbn
9780743232807
Lccn
2003044830
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • n
System control number
  • 1650492
  • (OCoLC)51818646
  • 1642346
  • (OCoLC)ocm51818646
  • 1642346
  • 1650492
  • 1650492
Label
When our grown kids disappoint us : letting go of their problems, loving them anyway, and getting on with our lives, Jane Adams
Link
Publication
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (pages 199-200) and index
Carrier category
volume
Carrier category code
  • nc
Carrier MARC source
rdacarrier
Content category
text
Content type code
  • txt
Content type MARC source
rdacontent
Contents
May I Talk to You Privately? -- Whose Story Is This? -- When Bad Things Happen to Good Parents -- Our Dirty Little Secret -- The Elephant in the Parlor -- The Kids Are All Right and Other Lies Parents Tell About Their Grown Children -- The Most Privileged Generation in History--Except Theirs -- Great Expectations: Ours or Theirs -- Who's in Trouble Here? -- Making Them Happy Is Not Up to Us -- But Can We Be Happy If They're Not? -- We're Waiting ... and Waiting ... and Waiting -- When We Were Their Age -- Prolonging the Search for Identity--Or Just Avoiding It? -- Excuse Us, But We're Having an Identity Crisis, Too -- Our Other Unfinished Task -- Two Kinds of Parents, Same Kind of Kids -- In Whose Good Time? -- Addicted, Depressed, and Dependent: A Detour or a Final Destination? -- Whose Fault Is It, Anyway? -- The Two Myths of Parenthood -- "I'll Never Make the Mistakes My Parents Made" -- Wrestling Guilt to the Ground -- The Echo of Our Childhoods -- Regret Is Guilt Without the Neurosis -- Why Wasn't I Listening? -- When the Writing's on the Wall -- Good Enough Is the Best We Can Do -- They're Ba-a-a-ck! -- The Never-Empty Nest -- Out of Time and Out of Patience -- Sparing the Help vs. Spoiling the Child -- Lives Without Guideposts -- Leaving No Forwarding Address -- The Challenge of Independence -- Strangled by Our Purse Strings -- "Why Should They Wait Till We're Dead?" -- Codependent on Dr. Spock -- Parents Who Give Too Much -- Maybe We Shouldn't Have Inhaled -- The Perils of Nostalgia -- It's Not the Age of Aquarius Any Longer -- Is It a Symptom or a Disease? -- Family Day at Rehab -- Staying Out of Their Program -- Doing the Wrong Thing -- The Limits of Love -- Paying a Different Kind of Attention -- Denying the Undeniable -- The Real Truth About Gay Pride -- Following the Pied Piper -- An Alternative to What? -- Who Are the Victims Here? -- Forgiving the Unforgivable -- Separating from Their Problems Without Separating from Them -- The Key to Our Survival -- Thank You for Sharing -- Marriages Under Fire -- Blurred Boundaries, Loving Limits -- But What About the Grandchildren? -- Phantom Guilt and Other Crimes of the Heart -- Reinventing Our Lives: The Challenge of Postparenthood -- Reinvigorating the Postparenthood Marriage -- New Wine in Old Bottles -- Different Times, Different Agendas -- Shuffling the Deck for a New Deal
Dimensions
23 cm
Extent
xiv, 206 pages
Isbn
9780743232807
Lccn
2003044830
Media category
unmediated
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • n
System control number
  • 1650492
  • (OCoLC)51818646
  • 1642346
  • (OCoLC)ocm51818646
  • 1642346
  • 1650492
  • 1650492

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